Recently, I was talking with someone about how hurt they felt by a person. Many times, as followers of Christ, we end up finding our joy through people. We will never be satisfied when this happens. Check out what my response was and hopefully it will help you see clearly how to remedy this issue.
Sounds like you are hurting pretty bad. But I know the reason you are hurting bad. When you put so much reliance/happiness on a person you will always be failed. Humans will always fail you. Not because we are inherently evil but because we are selfish.
My suggestion would be to put your focus back on God. Through that you will depend on only Him and He will always comfort you. 1 Peter 5:7 says “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” Also if you go to http://www.usfbcm.com/refuel/?page_id=69 there are some prayers based upon Scripture that will help you focus on God more than yourself. But this can only happen if you trust God. So read your Bible daily to renew your mind on Him (Romans 12:1-2).
What would you say? Would you add anything?
Hebrews 12:2 – Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
How many times do we focus on ourselves? I am so stinking selfish! As I was reading this morning I realized that I let Satan creep into my life and my mind. Then I let myself take over my thoughts. Ya, I said myself. We give Satan too much credit sometimes. I catch myself saying that I need to have more faith, I need to have more joy, I need to be used by God more. But then I read this verse where it is not faith, not joy, not even being used by God that saves us. It is only the blood of Jesus Christ, the author and perfecter of our faith, who gives us joy, who uses us when He pleases.
I need to stop hoping and start praying. Only Christ can give us hope when we look to Him. When we look only at Jesus and focus on what He did for us then we will not fear nor allow ourselves to get inside our heads. What are you doing to constantly look at Christ?
I am selfish.
Yup, I want everything to be about me.
If things don’t go my way I get angry.
If you can’t read my thoughts then you are not trying hard enough.
Don’t expect me to show any compassion to you because all I care about is me.
I want you to wait on me.
My time is more important than yours.
Why should I listen to you?
I want what you have and I don’t want you to have it.
When you boil it down every sin comes back to selfishness. Ephesians 4:21-32
- Lying – makes me look innocent/good
- Anger – because I don’t like what you did to me
- Theft – I must have it
- Slander – makes me look better than you
Instead we should put ourselves after loving God and then loving others:
- Be truthful – builds up the body (v. 25)
- Be kind and forgiving – gets rid of our desires and focuses on others (v. 26-27)
- Be generous – helps us forget that we want something (v. 28)
- Be encouraging (stupid) – makes others look better than you (v. 29)
Yesterday morning, during my time with God, I asked Him to show me that He has everything under control – that He is in charge. This week has been very stressful with our family still being sick, a conference I am planning, working on national stuff, and a meeting that announced budget and positions being cut this week (and it is only Wednesday morning as I write this). Plus my wife’s camera is acting up when we have a wedding this weekend and next weekend to shoot. Did I mention it is only Wednesday morning?
Sitting in my car, spending time in the Word, He reminded me of my request yesterday. Then He reminded me of two messages I had received last night.
The first was a student. I rarely receive encouragement from students (not like I’m expecting it especially since Catalyst as I have been focused in making God’s mark and not mine). But, when I do it is nice. However, this message blew me away because it was from someone I didn’t expect. The message ended with “You’ve been a major impact in my life and growth as a believer.” Wow!
The second was disheartening and worried me. It made my mind start racing about what it meant for me.
Both these messages made me realize that I need to just “be obedient to God and let Him take are of the consequences” (Charles Stanley). No matter what happens God is in control, good or what seems like it at the time…bad.
Kind of funny how God works, He could’ve just told me. Nope. He helped me realize what was already happening.
Lately I’ve been trying to pray. I’m not saying that I don’t but for some reason I haven’t been able to get words out. This lack of verbiage to God has been happening for a good bit of time and it was driving me nuts. Notice I said “was.” As I was reading today in Romans 8:26-27 I noticed something:
In the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words; and He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.
I’m weak right now…don’t know why. My words aren’t coming out (which is not a sign of being weak in your walk with Christ). However, Paul was weak during this time and explains that we really don’t know how to talk to God. I mean how many stinking times do you have to say someone’s name in a conversation before they get annoyed. But, the Spirit doesn’t even use words to intercede for us, He uses groans. And through those groans God gets our prayers. He knew that we would struggle with this because sometimes we do our best to say the right prayer. But if the Spirit is in you, God already knows your prayer. My mouth might not be able to express what I want God to hear but my heart’s desire is what the Spirit relays to our Lord.
Thank you God for hearing my prayers even when I don’t verbally express them. I feel like a burden has been lifted. I will just sit silently and listen for your voice now.
Every once in a while I get this feeling. It’s a little like the feeling I get after I’ve been to a Chinese buffet place and ate as much as a whole football team. I love those little fried dumplings and crab rangoon (my wife got me hooked on those even before we were married). This feeling makes me uneasy. Maybe you have had it before. A feeling that causes you to think, “am I doing what God really wants me to do?”
When I get these feelings I worry because when a friend has that feeling God is getting ready to uproot him. Majority of the time it is to a new location. However, every once in a while it’s a new mindset or even a smackdown. I’m not sure… I want to do something bigger than this. I know God has a plan for my life but why am I feeling like I want to do something big, bigger than my feeble little self…
So, this past Wednesday (the 28th) I was ordained into the ministry. Ya, me. Crazy. It was also my birthday, the big 28?
Before the service I wasn’t nervous or anything. However, I was in wonder and awe as to why God would choose me. I mean really, have you seen me? Have you seen my seriously bad ADD! I’m a brown guy with ADD and narcolepsy. Maybe I’m a true testimony that God really does use the weak. Have you felt like that?